What American men look for in a woman.

Todd Williams
10 min readApr 19, 2022

Before I start, I will first tell a story, and at the end, I will provide the answer to the question asked in this story.

Back in the eighties, when I was in college, I was at a party with my friend, whose name was Mark. Mark is white. There was a girl named Beth who was also white.

Beth told us that she would only date a man that has a car, a motorcycle, his own apartment, and she mentioned a few other requirements.

I, Mark, and a few other men asked Beth the following question. If the man has to have all of those things, then what do you offer. What do you bring to the table?

I will provide the correct answer to this question at the end.

Beth never answered the question. However, Mark and a few other men who were white were upset or a little angry at Beth’s requirements.

None of the men at the party, and most of the men in college, could ever meet Beth’s requirements, and the men that could, we all knew it was the man’s father that was paying for all of those things. Thus, there was no guarantee that without his father’s money, that after the man graduated from college, he would make enough money to pay for such a lifestyle.

I had a lot of white friends that came from Rich families, and the women from these families never had such requirements. Most of these women just wanted a good-looking guy that was nice.

It did not matter if the girl came from a broken family, if the girl came from a family where the parents are divorced, a single mother household, or a two-parent household. It was always the girls that came from poor to middle-class backgrounds that had these requirements.

I knew girls who came from middle-class households and two-parent households where the mother was telling the girl to marry a guy that was rich or could be rich.

Now, today, you hear many men asking this question, and I have heard only a small number of women who were able to answer this question.

I had a friend who was an adult film actress, and her name was Staci. Staci and I were only friends, we never had relations, and we never kissed.

Some of my other female friends asked me if I would have married her. The answer is yes, because her actions demonstrated the answer to this question. Thus, what I learned or what I never realized until I was asked if I would have married Staci was that the correct answer to this question is very important to men.

The answer to this question is what men are truly looking for in a woman. It does not matter what country the man is from. It does not matter what race the man is, and it does not matter what nationality the man is. The answer to this question is very important to all men around the world.

Many women answer this question with the following.

The women give the answer that they have a good education or are highly educated.

Most men do not care if the woman is educated. We do care if she can read and write. If you are from a very poor country, and if you cannot read and write, are you willing to learn. If you are willing to learn to read and write, then this is enough for most men.

I put this part in because some women in some countries receive little to no education.

After a woman has a baby, it will be the man’s education that will determine what kind of job he will be able to attain. Thus, most of the time, it will be the man’s employment or job that will determine the income of the household and not the woman’s income. Therefore, this is why a woman’s education is not a major concern to most men.

A woman will give the answer that they have their own money or that they make good money.

Most men do not care if you have money. Most men do not care if you have a good job. Most men do not care what kind of job you have.

After a woman has a baby, it will be the man’s income that supports the family, and this is why a woman’s income is not a major concern to most men.

A woman will give the answer that they have a car or a house.

Most men do not care if the woman has a car. Most men do not care if she has a house. If the woman has a car or a house is not important to most men.

Having a house would be nice and a benefit. However, many women require a man to already have a house and a car. Therefore, if the women already have a house, then why does the man also have to have a house.

Plus, for women that are in other countries, most men do not care if you do not speak good English. What we care about is that you attempt to tell us about who you are. Tell us your hopes, your dreams, your goals. We men know that over time your English will get better, and we do not want to lose a good woman just because she cannot speak good English. However, we men will not know if you are a good woman unless you try and talk to us.

Plus, most men do not care if you are not the prettiest or the most beautiful girl. What we do care about is that you find us attractive, and we find you attractive.

Men do not marry the girl that is the prettiest or the most beautiful. We marry the girl that is best for us. This is the real problem. What does it mean by the girl that is best for us?

When a man comes home from work, we want to be able to relax and enjoy our home. Men are looking for peace. When men are young, we believed that women thought the same way. As men got older, we found out that what women believe is peace, and what men believe is peace is not always the same.

I have a friend who is white named Bob, and Bob has dated some girls who were black. I have dated some girls who were white.

The same thing many black men have experienced when we dated black women, Bob experienced when he dated white women.

I said to Bob, that when I dated a woman that was white, the relationship was more considerate and understanding.

Bob said to me, that when he dated a woman that was black, the relationship was more considerate and understanding.

It seemed like when we dated women from our own race or nationality, there seemed to be expectations, or that women expect the man to act in a certain kind of way. Therefore, the woman will act in a certain kind of way based on what she expects how the man will act.

When women or people date outside their race or nationality, some people do not know what to expect, and thus do not fall into their expected behaviors. I think this is why when Bob dated a black woman or when I dated a white woman, the relationship was more considerate and understanding.

Back in the eighties, many white girls were afraid to date black men, and some of the ones that did date black men had issues with their families.

Throughout the seventies and the eighties, I have heard from some white girls that said the following. Only if you were not black. I was never offended because I did not care. Plus, I understood that she might have a lot of problems at home because her boyfriend was black. Problems that are hard for both of us to deal with.

Me, my black male friends, my white male friends, and my Asian male friends have all encountered many women that do the following.

They will not date a man just starting off in life unless the guy has his own place and a car.

We have dated a woman where the relationship is good for one week and hell the next week.

We have dated a woman where the woman will find or create something to fight about.

We have dated a woman where we cannot even start a relationship or get past the first or second date because she is acting hard to get, acting as if she is not interested, or acting unreasonably demanding.

I have met some women that wanted to get married right away.

I have dated some women that at the beginning of the relationship wanted me to prove I wanted to be with them, or prove my love for them.

I heard the excuse that she was scared.

I heard the excuse that you a too good-looking, and she is afraid you will cheat on her.

American men have heard it all from American women.

After the American man is over the age of 30 years old, and after we have encountered these kinds of women, all we are looking for is peace.

We are not looking for the most beautiful girl.

We men want a girl who finds us attractive and who we find attractive.

Now, let me sum it all up.

A woman’s education is not important to most men.

A woman’s job is not important to most men.

How much money a woman has is not important to most men.

If the woman has a car or a house is not important to most men.

If the woman can or cannot speak good English is not important to most men.

What is important is the following. The following is the answer to the question of “what do you have to offer” or “What do you bring to the table.”

Every person who is a nice person, men and women, all has the same thing to offer, which are.

I attempt to be caring, I attempt to be kind, I attempt to be affectionate, I attempt to be considerate, and I attempt to be understanding. We are not always successful at achieving these goals, but at least we will always try.

I had a female friend named Faith, who was 27 years old, and her husband George, who was 24 years old. Yes, George is younger than Faith.

Faith is a single mother looking for a nice guy. Faith had a college degree and came to Chicago for a job. Her first son stayed with her mother.

George did not have a college degree and was working paycheck to paycheck. George was so poor that some days he would skip lunch because he could not afford it.

Faith liked George, and she thought George liked her, but George would not make the first move. I explain to Faith that when a man has no money and if he is a nice guy, he will not even try to date. Even if you pay half and he pays half, he still might not be able to pay his half.

I do not know what Faith did, but two months later, Faith and George were living together in Faith’s little studio apartment. Then a year later they got married and moved into or lived with Faith’s mother. This allowed George to go to school to become a chef.

Within three years of them meeting, they had a son. Six years after their son was born, George had saved enough money to start planning to open his own restaurant.

Some women want to build something with you, but for many men in America, most of the women we encounter are women that want you to have it all before they would even consider dating you.

Thus, in the back of our men’s minds, we wonder if she would leave us if we lose it all. If we become poor again. How can we truly relax in this situation, how can we find peace?

As I said earlier, men are looking for peace. Now you know what this means. Now you know what men are looking for in a woman.

The first date with an American man.

If you do not speak good English, do not worry about it. Speaking good English is not important. What is important is that you try to talk. What is important is that you try to tell him about yourself. If you do not do this, then he might not ask you for a second date.

If he is a nice guy, and you try and talk, he will probably ask you for a second date. He will think that communicating will improve with time, which is true.

He might try and learn a few words in your language to make you feel more comfortable with not being able to speak good English.

Talking about your family or job is nice, but what is truly important is to tell him a little about your goals, a little about your hopes, and a little about your dreams.

Plus, your hopes, dreams, and goals do not have to be big. They can be small everyday stuff, such as when you get enough time, you will go to the store and purchase a new cooking pot, but taking the bus can take hours to get there.

If he is a nice guy, he might give you a ride to the store one day. However, this does not mean that he likes you. It just means that he is a nice guy.

Tell him about some of the places you hope to visit someday, especially if the place is close by. If he likes you, he will attempt to plan a date to one of the places you told him about. He will do this because he knows you will like it.

A nice guy likes to make his woman happy. However, he will assume you will do the same for him. Nice guys believe that both people should be happy and that both people should enjoy the date.

If the nice guy asks you where you would like to go or what you like to do, he is just attempting to make you happy. This is how nice guys are built. This is how we are made.

Nice guys are considerate. This means that they do not just think about themselves and what they want. They also think about what the other person would like and what the other person would want.

America has a saying that goes, “Happy wife, happy life.” However, many American women take advantage of this.

So, if the American man, who is a nice guy, does not plan the date and instead asks you where you would like to go, or what you would like to do. He is just attempting to make sure you will enjoy the date.

If you do not want a man that is considerate, a man that thinks about what might make you happy, or a man that thinks about what you want, then do not date an American nice guy. Date an American who is a category called Tyrone or Chad. A man that does not have space for love in their heart.

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Todd Williams

I am trying to provide information to other that I wished I knew years ago..